Marriage Problems

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I am a reasonably intelligent and educated person. I have many valuable traits. My husband is very intelligent and hard working as well. I suffer from low self esteem, but not all the time. It seems to trouble me depending on hormone levels, and interpersonal relationships.

My husband confessed to me the other day that he feels superior to me. I agree that he is smarter than me and better at a lot of things than I am. However, I want to know if this is a healthy thing in a marriage.

I was always under the impression than a spouse truly felt that 'this is my better half' and mean it. It is very hurtful to know that he thinks he is better than me.

I want to know, is this a normal thing for a spouse to feel? He says, that if people were honest, they would always say this since they value more highly what they do well, and therefore, would feel superior.

I just don't know what to think. Please let me know from a psychological point of view if this is appropriate or if I am correct.