
Abbie Davinson on why having direction and purpose is vital for psychological stability.
If youâve ever felt overwhelmed by constant noise, pulled in too many directions, or unsure why your mind feels scattered even when nothing is wrong, this article will help you make sense of it.
Writer and multidisciplinary creative Abbie Davinson explores how modern life overstimulates the brain, fractures identity, and drains the very systems that keep us grounded. Drawing on lived experience and a sharp eye for human behaviour, she explains why direction and structure are not luxuries but psychological necessities in a world built to distract and destabilise.
Whether you are interested in mental health, identity, behaviour, social environments, or the pressures shaping younger generations, this piece offers a clear and compelling argument for why so many people feel mentally overloaded today, and what it takes to reclaim clarity.
Itâs not crazy to say weâre all losing our minds a bit.
How many of us actually know what we want from life?
How many of us avoid the conversations that matter, politics, religion, morality, not because we donât care, but because we donât want to confront the discomfort of choosing a direction?
Itâs easier to distract yourself.
Itâs easier to stay neutral.
Itâs easier to avoid the questions that force you to look at who you are and what youâre doing.
But hereâs the problem:
When you donât make decisions, your environment makes them for you.
And most people donât even realise itâs happening.
This piece is about why having purpose and direction is a psychological necessity. Without direction, the mind becomes unstable. Exposure to hundreds of competing realities every day doesnât expand you; it fractures you. It leads to confusion, mental chaos, burnout, and the slow erosion of identity.
Before we go any further, itâs important to recognise that "identity" and "direction" are not the same thing. A lot of people avoid choosing a direction because they think it means locking themselves into one version of who they are.
But direction isnât about freezing identity; itâs about stabilising the mind while identity naturally changes.
You donât need a fixed self to have a path. You just need something steady enough to keep you grounded while everything else shifts. Thatâs why cultural and philosophical systems that emphasise change still see the value in structure.
Different cultures have understood this in their own ways.
Take Buddhism, the concept of âno self.â Not in the sense that identity doesnât exist, but that identity isnât fixed. Youâre always changing. You donât own anything permanently, including your own ideas about who you are. Detachment isnât about becoming empty; itâs about becoming adaptable.
Direction doesnât contradict that.
Direction strengthens it.
A sense of direction, whether it comes from faith, family, education, creativity, business, or a personal mission, keeps the mind steady while everything else changes. It softens the ego instead of inflating it. It stops the ego from reacting to everything and pulling you into mental spirals. It lets you take in new perspectives without being threatened by them. You become someone who can understand other realities without losing your own.
Thatâs the foundation.
Now let me break down exactly how this works, and why lacking direction in the modern world is one of the biggest reasons our brains are burning out.
Every time you pick up your phone, youâre pulled into another reaction cycle, another argument, another opinion delivered with absolute confidence, another person telling you the right way to live, eat, think, vote, or believe. Youâre hit with different realities back to back, each one loud, certain, and competing for your attention. The amount of input we process in a single day is completely unnatural. Most of it isnât there to inform you; itâs designed to keep you responding and engaging.
We grow up in an environment where consumption isnât just normal; itâs automatic.
Dopamine comes cheap. Food, entertainment, opinions, distractions, stimulation, all of it instant, accessible, and constant. Our brains adapt to that. When life becomes this easy to consume and this hard to process, you end up taking in far more than you create. And that imbalance reshapes how your mind works.
Hereâs what actually happens when you consume more than you create: you start taking in other peopleâs thoughts faster than you can generate your own. At some point, your opinions stop feeling like yours, your reactions donât match your values, and your beliefs start contradicting each other. Thatâs because youâre absorbing too many realities at once. Online, confidence gets mistaken for truth. Look at how easily people fall for AI videos, scripted political clips, or influencers performing for views. Half the time, people arenât engaging with ideas; theyâre reacting to tone. It looks like gullibility, but itâs also conditioning. When you donât have direction, your internal authority is weak and the most confident voice becomes the one you follow.
Humans have always needed groups, thatâs biological. But too many people let the group decide their reality for them. Thatâs where autonomy disappears: in the small, daily moments where you accept someone elseâs interpretation before youâve formed your own. And for children raised on media from a young age, the situation is worse. Read my article "Born Into Corruption", if you want to go deeper into how damaging this is for children. Are they even developing an internal authority at all? Theyâre being conditioned into followers before theyâve had the chance to become individuals. That doesnât create obedient children; it creates chaotic ones. Just look at the behaviour patterns weâre seeing in the younger generation right now. We are not evolving socially; we are devolving, and the evidence is everywhere.
Thatâs how conditioning takes over. And when enough people are running on that system, you end up with households, communities, and entire social environments built on instability instead of clarity. Without direction on an individual level, you cannot build stability on a collective one. You donât need a full life plan; just a purpose strong enough to stop you from outsourcing your identity to whatever reality is loudest. Direction anchors the individual first, and thatâs the only way healthier dynamics, relationships, or families can form. Even if the only person youâre doing it for is yourself, reclaiming internal authority is what breaks the cycle of passive conditioning. In todayâs society, chaos isnât just a byproduct; itâs profitable. The more dysregulated people are, the easier they are to influence, sell to, and redirect. A mind without internal authority is a mind that relies on external systems for answers, and those systems often benefit from keeping you overwhelmed. Many of the solutions offered to us are responses to problems created by the same structures that profit from our instability. Donât participate in that cycle.
And this is where people get lost. There isnât one "truth." There are thousands, each shaped by different upbringings, environments, traumas, and worldviews. Your experiences build your reality. Someone elseâs experiences build theirs. You can understand their perspective, you can respect it, but you donât need to live by it. When you donât have a sense of direction, you start mixing other peopleâs truths into your own life, even when they donât align with who you are or what youâve lived through.
Direction stops that from happening.
It keeps you grounded in your own reality instead of getting pulled into everyone elseâs.
Psychologists use the term hyper meaning generation to describe what happens when the brain is overstimulated. The brain is designed to recognise patterns, itâs one of its survival mechanisms, but when your attention is constantly pulled in every direction, the pattern recognition system becomes oversensitive. You start interpreting things that wouldnât normally register, (e.g. thoughts like... âwhy are they looking at me,â) because your mind is running without a filter. The result isnât insight; itâs mental fatigue.
When your mind is overstimulated, it begins assigning weight to things that normally wouldnât stand out. Everyday interactions start demanding analysis. Random details feel relevant for no reason, and you start overanalysing peopleâs intentions because your mind is treating every interaction like it carries hidden meaning. Your thoughts donât settle; they loop because your attention system canât sort whatâs meaningful from whatâs irrelevant. The salience network, the part of the brain responsible for filtering information, becomes overactive and imprecise, and everything gets processed with the same level of intensity. When that filter is worn out, your mental environment doesnât quiet down; it becomes crowded.
The overload creates a false sense of connection between things that wouldnât normally relate. Your mind starts linking thoughts, moments, and reactions because it doesnât have the capacity to sort through them properly. The internal structure that decides what deserves attention becomes strained, and everything starts competing for the same amount of focus. That level of mental activity isnât sustainable; it runs down your system fast.
People often romanticise the idea of "meaning in everything", but constant interpretation isnât depth. Itâs work. And the brain isnât built to operate in analysis mode all day. When every experience demands significance, your cognitive energy drains quickly. The more meaning you force onto the world, the less attention you have for the things that genuinely impact your life.
Dopamine isnât about feeling good; itâs about identifying what the brain should pay attention to. It marks relevance. It marks significance. When your day is built from rapid, unpredictable dopamine spikes, constant stimulation, arguments, notifications, scrolling, emotional micro reactions, the system that labels importance becomes unstable. Everything starts landing with the same intensity, even when it doesnât deserve it. That overload creates a dopamine crash, and the brain responds by reducing meaning across the board. Itâs trying to protect itself from further depletion.
When the stimulation drops, what you feel is a dopamine deficit. Think of dopamine like a currency. You donât spend money you canât afford without ending up in debt, so you shouldnât spend dopamine on things that drain you with nothing in return. Hours scrolling, constant online arguments, meaningless situationships, people who bring chaos into your life, all of that burns through your dopamine balance and leaves you with nothing for the things that actually matter. Once that balance drops, everything becomes harder: regulating your emotions, starting tasks, staying consistent, even getting out of bed. A lot of what people call burnout is really just a system running with no resources left.
Direction changes that. When you have something youâre working toward, even small steps, your dopamine gets used in a controlled way. You get gradual rewards instead of emotional whiplash. You build momentum instead of draining yourself. You donât need money or privilege to start; you just need structure and honesty with yourself. The only person youâre in competition with is who you were yesterday. Everyone has a different starting point, different opportunities, and different realities. Comparing yourself to strangers online only creates cognitive dissonance. When you set goals based on someone elseâs life or goals that are too high to achieve, you set yourself up for failure, which chemically is a dopamine drop in the brain and once your brain associates effort with disappointment, it stops wanting to try at all.
The egoâs role is to keep your sense of self stable. When youâre overstimulated, it reacts by tightening your mental boundaries. You become less open to new information and more focused on what feels familiar because your brain doesnât have the capacity to process anything else. This isnât stubbornness or being closed minded; itâs a protective response to overload. A clear sense of direction prevents that reaction. When you have something steady to work toward, your ego doesnât need to pull you inward to keep you together. It becomes easier to absorb different perspectives, stay grounded in your own reality, and take in new ideas without feeling threatened or overwhelmed. Direction doesnât fight the ego; it gives it structure so it can do its job without restricting you.
Purpose doesnât appear from nowhere; it develops through creation. When you create, you form identity. Identity gives you purpose. Purpose creates direction. Direction calms the mind because it gives you something concrete to move toward instead of drifting between thoughts and reactions.
Think about it in a simple, everyday way. If youâre bored and you tell your friend, âletâs do something,â but you have no plan, the whole night feels unfocused. You wander around trying to make the moment work. Now compare that to having a plan, meeting for dinner, going to an event, having something specific lined up. You feel more confident, more present, more grounded because thereâs a clear structure guiding the night.
The mind works the same way. e.g. when youâre walking to class, work, or an event and youâre in a rush, youâre focused on getting there on time. Youâre not thinking about whoâs looking at you or what strangers think. Your attention is occupied by direction. But when you have nowhere to go, your attention scatters. You start analysing yourself, other people, random interactions, anything to fill the gap.
Direction removes that. It gives your attention a place to land so your mind isnât constantly searching for meaning in the wrong places.
There isnât a complicated process for fixing overstimulation. The mind works better when it has direction, routine, and something to build toward. When your life has structure, your brain stops burning through dopamine on things that donât matter, and you naturally rely less on quick rewards. Consistency becomes easier because youâre not fighting your own chemistry every day; youâre working with it.
Creating more than you consume strengthens identity, and identity gives your mind a foundation. When youâre building something, even slowly, your attention stays anchored. You donât get pulled into every emotion, every argument, or every online performance. Your standards shift. You stop entertaining situations that drain you because you recognise the cost. Living in a way your future self would respect isnât about perfection; itâs about aligning your behaviour with the person youâre becoming.
Stability is about choosing the right things to invest your energy in. When your time and attention go into something meaningful, your mind follows. The noise reduces on its own.
If thereâs one thing worth understanding, itâs this: the human body hasnât evolved fast enough to match the world weâre living in. Our nervous system was designed for brief bursts of stress and long periods of recovery, not constant stimulation, relentless decision making, and a thousand competing realities hitting us every single day. Modern life demands more than the biology can supply, and the gap between the two is where most people break.
When you look at behaviour through that lens, it stops being personal. Burnout isnât a moral failure. Inconsistency isnât laziness. Overthinking isnât personality. These are biological responses to an environment moving faster than the system regulating it. You can fight that, or you can adapt to it, but you canât ignore it without paying the price.
This is why direction matters. Not as a motivational concept, but as a biological requirement. The brain stabilises when it knows what to prioritise. The nervous system regulates when life has predictable structure. Dopamine becomes tolerable again when it isnât being spent on everything at once. Direction isnât about "doing more"; itâs about reducing the amount of input your biology has to process.
Most people donât realise how much easier life becomes when you stop treating your body like an inconvenience and start treating it like the operating system it actually is. You wouldnât expect a device to run twenty apps, stream five tabs, process notifications, and perform at full speed without overheating. Yet people expect that from themselves every day.
Your biology sets the rules.
Understanding those rules is what gives you freedom.
Direction is simply the method.
It tells your system what to focus on and what to ignore.
It gives your mind a single pathway instead of a hundred unfinished ones.
It restores internal authority in a world built on external noise.
You just need your behaviour, environment, and goals to stop contradicting your biology.
When you align those, the nervous system finally stops fighting for stability.
And once that happens, clarity isnât something you chase -
itâs something that appears on its own.
This is only one layer of a much larger system. The biological, social, behavioural, and cultural mechanisms behind all of this connect in ways Iâll explore in upcoming work. There are deeper forces shaping the way we think, react, and interpret the world, and this section is just the starting point for understanding them. If itâs done anything, I hope it makes the pressure of modern life feel less personal, and gives you the space to feel a little less trapped inside it.
If youâve made it to the end, youâre already ahead of most people. The fact you were able to sit with something this long, stay present, and actually finish it shows a level of discipline and engagement most people never train. Most will tap out halfway through and go back to scrolling reels that mean nothing and change nothing. You didnât. You stayed with the argument, you let it build, and you followed it to the end. That alone tells me youâre already moving differently.
Thank you for your time, your attention, and your patience, and welcome to the beginning of something much bigger.
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