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How to find a goal that is meaningful

by Christine
(UK)

I am stuck.

I no longer know what I want from my life.

I have a roof over my head, sufficient money to provide for my needs (nothing excessive), access to a good library (I am an avid reader) and the internet, but no employment. I have no family and no close friends but I enjoy my solitude, and do not feel lonely.

However I suffer from bouts of severe depression (+ social anxiety). I feel that I lack meaning in my life. I think that if I could find something to aspire to, something that was meaningful to me I might shake off this depression. If I could find something important to me, I think I could keep motivated, as each small step of the way would give me reward. If I could get started I might there are other things that I might aim for as well as or instead of this first one.

But I need this first aspiration, the one that gets me out of bed in the morning and looking forward to the rest of the day, the rest of the week, the rest of my life, the one that gets me excited about each small step I make towards its achievement.

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You're not alone
by: Anne

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It's evident that you've been going through a tough time, and I want you to know that you're not alone in experiencing these feelings. Many people face similar challenges in finding meaning and purpose in their lives, especially when dealing with depression and social anxiety.

It's positive to recognize the things you currently have in your life, such as a place to live, sufficient resources, and access to your interests like reading. However, it's also understandable that you're seeking something more, a sense of direction and aspiration to bring excitement and motivation back into your life.

Here are some suggestions to help you explore and discover what might give your life meaning and purpose:

Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on your passions, values, and interests. Consider the activities that make you feel engaged and fulfilled. Think about times when you felt most alive and content. This introspection can provide valuable insights into what matters most to you.

Experiment and Explore: Don't be afraid to try new things or revisit old hobbies. Exploring different activities or subjects can open up new avenues for you. Sometimes, it's through experimentation that we stumble upon something that truly resonates with us.

Seek Professional Support: Speaking with a therapist or counselor could be immensely helpful in understanding and addressing your depression and social anxiety. A mental health professional can support you in exploring your feelings, setting goals, and finding a sense of direction.

Volunteer or Help Others: Engaging in activities that benefit others can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Consider volunteering for a cause that aligns with your values or helping others in any way you can. Sometimes, contributing to the well-being of others can bring a profound sense of meaning to our lives.

Set Small Goals: Start with small, achievable goals that align with your interests and values. Celebrate each step you take towards these goals, as it will give you a sense of accomplishment and motivation to keep moving forward.

Connect with Like-Minded People: While you enjoy your solitude, connecting with others who share your interests can be enriching. You might find communities or clubs related to your passions, where you can share experiences and ideas.

Practice Self-Compassion: Remember that it's okay to feel stuck or uncertain about your path in life. Be kind to yourself throughout this process of exploration and self-discovery. Avoid comparing yourself to others and focus on your own journey.

Please remember that finding a sense of purpose and meaning can be a gradual process, and it's okay to take your time. Reach out to supportive individuals or professionals to help you along the way. You deserve to find fulfillment and happiness in your life, and there are resources available to assist you in this journey. Take care.

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