Teenage Self Esteem

by Joe
(Plano, Texas, USA)

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Photo Credit: Jamiesrabbits

My 14 year old son thinks that he is not worthy of anything he does or says. He is very bright, straight A student, has four friends he is very close with, is on the track team, and has a younger sister.



My wife and I have spoken with him numerous times about his feelings, but he keeps insisting that anything he does is not good enough and he is not worthy of the things he has. He always takes care of everyone else and then thinks of himself.

"I love you" flows freely in our family and although my daughter doesn't say it, my son says it frequently when we say it to him. I want him to be confident and I want him to know that we love him very much.

What can I say or do to make him gain the confidence he needs to move forward? I want him to believe that what he does and says is important and we listen to him, no matter what the subject is.

Please help. Thank you.

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Mar 25, 2010
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Teenage Self Esteem
by: Anonymous

As parents we should make our children feel that they are appreciated in anything they do. It could be a mistake on their exams but we should still give them credit and tell then that they did a great job. We should let our children express their emotions and know who their friends are and have time for each of them to know them better as well.

Mar 12, 2010
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I Know Exactly How He Feels
by: Anonymous

I'm a 16 year old teenage girl! at 14 I was already 'matured'.... so I thought! I didn´'t want anyone around me, especialy my parents, I felt old, like I was an adult and could take care of myself! but that was just a phase, my mom began to worry, she even sent me to a psychologist, she thought there was something wrong within me.... but I was... fine! I'm a very secretive person, and dont like expressing myself to others, I prefer telling a friend.... rather than my own parents.

It's not that I was scared of them or anything, but it just felt..... o.k! Don't worry too much about your son, he'll come around eventually, give him time and he'll be o.k!

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