Psychological Issues With Urination

by Debbi

My parents were divorced when I was 2 and a half; I am an only child (f). When I was 6 my mother started going out with an abusive drunk who I really didn't like. It was around this time when I developed a problem with night-time urination.

I would always (still do) go to the toilet immediately before bed. If any time lapsed before I actually fell asleep (I made it impossible and as little as a minute or two) I would have to go again telling myself that unless I was able to have another wee, I would not be able to fall asleep.

Under this sort of pressure to ignore the warning of 'you will not fall asleep' was fruitless. It got so bad that I would actually wee on the carpet next to my bed (even if it was just a DROP) to avoid running the distance across the hall to go to the bathroom.

As I got older the problem became less intense but even now as an adult I feel compelled to go to the toilet immediately before I go to sleep. If my husband talks to me for too long I feel that I have to go again - still the same issue. If I even slightly wake up in the night, I have to get up and go to the toilet before I can fall asleep again.

I have looked on webpages and cannot find any answers to this. I don't think there is anything physically wrong with me as I have no problems during the day and do not have the physical urge to urinate - only a psychological one. At 32 I am on a journey of self discovery and this an issue I would like some answers too.

Can anyone help?