Controlling Behavior
by Lara
(USA)
Photo Credit: Jen Collins
I am 17 and my boyfriend is 18. I know that he has a social anxiety disorder and ADD, but that he is on medication. He texts me frequently asking to know where I am, what I am doing, when I will be done, and who I am with. I feel as though he asking for an alibi!
When I tell him that I will do something (like do homework), but instead I opt for spending time with friends, he freaks out!!! We have been on and off for about 8 months now and I'm nearing the end of my rope. Also, if he asks me to text him when I'm done with something, and I don't because I rarely have time to text, he gets very upset. (NOTE: He's not violent AT ALL. He can actually be very sweet).
We have discussed this issue (of being understanding how I'm busy and sometimes I don't have time to text him when he asks me to), but this is about the second or third cycle of the sweet-anxious/clingy/controlling cycle. What can I do to talk to him about this, but not hurt his feelings (because he's sensitive)?
