Anti Personality Disorder

by Carole
(USA)

Photo Credit: Adam Clark

Photo Credit: Adam Clark

I have a grandson who has been diagnosed with anti personality disorder. He has been in jail for 7 months. He wants to come live with my husband & I. He was with us when he was 17 and two months before graduation he quit school. He got his GED went to the navy but was kicked out for drugs & alcohol.

His mom died at when he was 9 years old. We want to help him but are afraid he will take advantage of us. My husband is 78 I am 77 years old. My question is do you think he can change after 7 months in jail?

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Apr 16, 2011
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What do you think?
by: MistyRose

Well, Miss I agree with part of the comments already posted. You should send him to a therapist. But, i believe you most likely are no doubt lost on what to do. In my advice, I would accept him in. After all how do you help someone with out showing that you trust them. Man is an animal as stated often in Psychology, and most humans have that urge to "befriend an animal." How do you go about this task? Simple you start by gaining the animals trust, slowly you and the animal gain an unbreakable bond...correct? Humans work the same way. I am sure with enough time you and your grandson will have a rather great bond. Wheter or not he shows his appreciation at the very start depends on his personality not the disorder he has been labeled with. Get to know him, Stay firm, but realistic, Be trusting, but still keep a close eye. If things don't work out, then oh well. You then will be able to say you tried, you can lead a horse to water...but you can't force him to drink it. The best thing to do so you feel less guility is invite him, but be on guard, set firm rules. He may be labled with a disorder, but that does not and should not, define him indefiently be there for him when no one else his.
yours sincearly,
MistyRose

Apr 10, 2011
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by: Anonymous

I know about anti-social personality disorder. People like that do not change. They don't feel emotions, they can't. Even their MRI's look different. My advice would be do not trust this person. It is also known as a sociopath or a psychopath. Take my word for it, they are very cunning and deceitful. Hope this helps. A.

Mar 09, 2011
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anti social personality.
by: katlyn

Antisocial personality disorder is a tough thing to deal with ... not only for your grandson, but you as well. Unfortunately, there is no quick fix for such. This disorder can present with very dangerous and very impulsive decisions. Your grandson will need extensive therapy and possible medication. I urge you to protect yourself so you can protect him as well. Best wishes as I urge you to get help for him by a licensed therapist.

Mar 08, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Focusing on the fact that he came out of jail isn't enough to determine whether he changed or not. Some of us who are raised the wrong way or have experienced childhood trauma, death of a loved one etc., grow up with an anger and a suffering all bottled up inside. Being diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder is probably one of the effects of many childhood problems. This behavior can be reckless and dangerous at times. I wouldn't give up on your grandson, however. Before coming back into your life he should commit to a therapist to work his problems out. He is still young i suppose, and so therefore, this would be extremely beneficial.

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